Award Winning Design

lovelymanners Wins Design Award!!!

YUPO Names Three Wally Award Winners

Creative Peers Attending HOW Design Conference Select Winners in Three Categories for Eighth Annual Design Competition

(Chesapeake, VA) -- Yupo Corporation America, a leading global manufacturer of synthetic paper and presenter of the Wally Awards, has announced the winners of the annual design competition.

Best Design entry – Lovely Manners Placemat by Dawn Vislocky of PBM Graphics

Best Package entry – Puka Pill Organizer by designer Shumpei Kato

Best Artist entry – Sorina Susnea “The Wondrous World Inside”

“Lovely Manners Placemat” by PBM Graphics, Inc. of Durham, NC, was selected for the Best Design category. Dawn Vislocky of PBMG will receive a $500 award. Puka Pill organizer by Shumpei Kato of Vancouver, BC, will receive a $500 award for winning the Best Package category. For her Best Artist category winning entry, “The Wondrous World Inside,” Sorina Susnea of Floral City, FL will receive a generous supply of YUPO paper.

Lovely Manners Table Placemats submitted by PBM Graphics, of Durham, NC, on behalf of client, www.lovelymanners.com - an online store and blog, which shares modern manners for people of all ages. PBM produced this table placemat collection on YUPO Grade: 144 lb cover in 1960s-era retro color combinations: blue/green, orange/fuchsia, and grey on grey. Each set contains six unique placemats with bold graphics and helpful etiquette reminders for proper table manners such as the proper placement of glasses, bread and salad plates, using silverware in correct order and rules for social interaction during meals. The placemats were created by freelance designer, Elizabeth Kuehnen, for the company's online store.

At the Table

I'm not a snob….I just like seeing good manners at the table….or rather I hate seeing bad manners at the table - especially when they're GROSS - which is exactly the reason we have manners - so please try to be considerate and don't do things that might turn someone's stomach while you're sitting near them.

We're away while our boys are at camp. Sitting in a gorgeous outdoor setting having a glass of wine with my husband, I couldn't stop watching the people at the next table…..

1) When you walk into a restaurant, you should look and try to get a feeling for the atmosphere in the restaurant - if it's rowdy and noisy already, go ahead and have fun! But if you sense that the place is quiet and people are enjoying the quiet and/or the view, remind yourself of that when you begin your  table talk. I had such a hard time listening to my husband because the people next to us were conversing very loudly - much louder than they needed to.

2) Please remember not to push your food onto your fork with your fingers.  Don't think, "oh just this once, no one will see" - people WILL see! I did! This same loud guy dug his two fingers into his salad bowl and pushed his salad onto his fork several times. Is this one of those ridiculous manners people shouldn't get upset about? I don't think so because it grossed me out!  (The thesaurus suggests "repulse" and "repel" for "gross out" but, hey, I'm writing the way I speak.)

3) I looked at the woman next to the guy and she had a huge piece of buttered bread and was eating the whole thing - it was an enormous piece of fresh bread.  I just quietly said to Dan, "I think these people need the placemats and I know what I'm blogging about."

I guess the main gist of all of this is that even if you don't think other people around you will see or hear or be bothered by your actions, you should remember that they very well could be - so be considerate.

So, a quick quiz:
Q: Should you be loud and boisterous at a "quiet outdoorsy beautiful view" restaurant?  A: No, consider the atmosphere when you walk in.
Q: Should you use your fingers to push food onto your fork? A: No, NEVER use your fingers.  You have a knife or a piece of bread to help you!
Q: Should you butter and eat a whole piece of bread at once?  A: No, it looks a lot nicer and it IS a lot easier to break off a bite-sized piece of bread, butter just that bite, and pop that into your mouth.

Civility, Politics, and the American Public

This post is in response to some recent comments from some readers.  "Basement Boy" - whomever he is -  is worried about how to handle discussions about politics - especially when he does not "agree" with the other party.  That reminded me of a recent survey I read about.  According to Politico, a recent survey of 1000 Americans concludes that 80% of those surveyed have, in the last year, been victims of incivility and one in 10 admit that they have been rude themselves.  (Survey: http://www.politico.com/news/stories/0611/57304.html )

I thought it was very interesting that 90 percent of the people surveyed say that it really matters to them how the candidates who will be running in th next elections behave and treat people in debates with whom they disagree - that the candidate's tone of civility is very important. But only 55 percent of the people say they care about the party to which the candidate belongs.

So, when you're having those political debates with people (I rarely become involved in these because it just gets too messy), watch that YOU are being civil and are giving the other person in the conversation or debate room to speak his/her opinions  - or you might be thought of as just as uncivil as some of these candidates!

Another interesting fact:  people surveyed said that out of 25 American "Institutions" Political Campaigns are the least civil and Dinner Conversation is the most civil.  So Basement Boy, why don't you just stick to Dinner Conversation - especially dinner conversation without politics.  It sounds like you may not be cut out for political banter with friends!

And if you're rolling your eyes about this whole manners thing, take a good look at this quote from Edmund Burke a friend just sent me today. She said she was a teacher in NYC and used to keep this up on the chalkboard:

Manners are of more importance than laws... Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, barbarize or refine us, by a constant, steady, uniform, insensible operation, like that of the air we breathe in.


Have a great week!  And remember to order some placemats as your summer hostess gifts!!!!  :)

Use this QR Code & Test Your lovelymanners Skills!

"Test Your lovelymanners Skills Right Now! Scan Me!"

Hey, everyone. While I'm waiting for the placemats to be packaged this week - yes, they are really going to be up on the site and for sale by next week! - I've been diligently thinking about new ways to sell and market.  And the computer geek that I am (for people who know me, they KNOW I actually am!), I've become really fascinated with these new QR codes and QR readers.  QR stands for Quick Response Code - you've probably started seeing them in magazine and newspaper ads...and they're going to start showing up at points of sale - just watch!

So I decided to generate my own QR code and I'm going to put it on stickers on the outside of my placemat packaging - The

Be Nice.

A quick lovelymanners post today.  I heard a comment the other day that struck me.  It was when CIA Director, Leon Panetta, was named Obama's nominee for Defense Secretary (this was before the Osama assasination).  An interesting comment was made about Panetta and why people like to work for him.


"He expects respect from the people who work for him -
because he gives respect to the people who work for him."

And that's the crux of it! That's what manners are - they are not tired, irrelevant, elitist rules only applicable to days gone by. They are action-oriented behaviors that outwardly express courtesy and respect to friends, family, co-workers, and complete strangers.

BE NICE.  It's really not that hard.

"Mobile Misfits"

The surprise on the waiter's face when he walked up to our table, and suddenly, I popped up from under the tablecloth! OK, I was caught - and so embarrassed!  "But I thought it was nicer than talking at the table and I didn't know what to do!" I said. "It's a LOT better than what I usually see," he remarked with a smile.

So, yes, it's being talked about everywhere now - and I am guilty too.  It was in the NYT this past Sunday, it's discussed in

I'm "OK" with Bread Plates and Drinks

When you sit down at the table, do you often look and think, "Whose bread plate is whose....I can't remember how this works." And, "whose glass is whose?"   Well, here's a really easy way to remember.  I learned this little trick in my training (for those of you who know me, no, it is NOT the napkin trick) and it is one of the things that will ALWAYS stick with me now - I hope it helps you too!  I know it's helped some of my friends with whom I've recently dined!

What Exactly is a Spoon For?

Being on a family vacation and eating in restaurants during almost every meal gives me the ability to spend much more time watching my two boys' table manners - I'm not cooking and doing kitchen duty, so I have much more time to watch what they're doing.  The crazy thing is that I realized I became obsessed this week with a most mundane thing - the Spoon!

At one point, one of my boys ordered spaghetti, and a spoon arrived in his bowl of pasta.  The next thing I saw was my son trying to eat spaghetti with the spoon!  When I asked what he thought he was doing (quietly), he told me that a spoon had arrived in his bowl, so he assumed that he was supposed to use it to eat the dish.  So, I immediately reminded him about our placemats which teach "Twirl your pasta with your fork on a spoon" to make it bite-sized.  When he realized what I was talking about, he knew exactly what to do....but seeing him trying to initially eat spaghetti with a spoon cracked me up!

Duke Girls Search Austin for Best Manners

I spent this weekend in Austin visiting a college friend with five of my other Duke girlfriends. We happened upon a situation which we unanimously voted as "the best manners we encountered all weekend".

It's hard to accept a compliment, isn't it?  But once a day, or once a week, we're paid a compliment and what do we do?  We say, "Oh, not really....." or  "Thank you,

but.......".   The appropriate way to

accept a compliment is to do so with the same kindness used to give you the compliment. Accept it Graciously.

Here's our story:

We were in a very large dressing room - in a kind of

Breaking Bread

A short posting this week.

Some technical glitches came up with printing the first run of the lovelymanners placemats this weekend.  I want them to be PERFECT, so I pulled the job late Saturday night and will continue once we figure out how to fix what was going on.  A great Saturday night I had I have to say -  sitting in a room at a printing company in North Carolina!  I had plenty of time to proofread our copy again for the umpteenth time, and reading one of our manners reminded me of something I had seen earlier in the weekend.

When you are out in a restaurant - or even at home - do you